How to cope with small children

How to cope with small children

How to cope with small children
Game and sociability


To play - means to be engaged in serious business.Not all adults understand what is meant for the child by a game. Observing as kids build of cubes of the house and a tower, play the plane, learn to jump through a string or are busy with other childish sports, some adults consider that kids have just a good time. In their opinion, childish sports have nothing in common with such serious training as preparation of lessons and - subsequently - work. Roots of this wrong representation need to be looked for in our childhood when inspired in us that a game is only an entertainment, preparation of homeworks - a duty, and work - the need not always bringing pleasure and joy.

   Observe the child when he shifts a rattle from one hand in another or when learns to creep on a ladder, or pushes cubes, representing the train, and you will come to a right conclusion: the kid is busy with hard work - he studies the world. So he prepares for the forthcoming useful work in society. Its occupation reminds study of the student at university when he prepares for future profession.

   The kid likes to play not because it is easy but because it is difficult. Every minute, every day children seek to comprehend all new and more difficult kinds of activity. They want to learn to do all that is done by other children and adults.
   

 Very many mothers of one-year-old kids complain that their kids do not wish to play with cubes, they like to insert saucepans and frying pans each other more. The explanation is simple: the child sees that mother "plays" with pans, but not with cubes therefore also he is attracted more by frying pan pans. Parents have to understand that for the same reason many children are so captivated by cigarettes.

Simple toys - the most interesting. Many kids like simple toys more, and they longer with them are engaged. It not because children are unpretentious but because they have a rich imagination. There are two types of toy trains. One train is very similar on real, even on rails runs. And another is made of simple wooden blocks which easily separate one from another. It is difficult for small child to cope with the toy railroad and nothing can be shipped in the car, you will not break a roof yet. Therefore it becomes soon boring to play with such train. The train from cubes is much more interesting. Two cubes connected together are a truck with the trailer. And if from above to put small cubes, the freight train which will carry freights to the different cities will turn out. When to the kid bothers to travel by land, he turns each cube into the boat. This flotilla will be pulled by the barge - the biggest cube. So the imagination of the child therefore he can play rather long time develops.

   Some parents worry that they are not able to buy to the kid expensive toys. But imagine how much he can make with a usual cardboard box. It both bed, and house, and truck, and tank, and fortress, and garage. But it does not mean. That the child does not need to buy good toys at all. Time will come, and to it the good designer, a tricycle or another will want to have a toy, attractive for it, and you willingly buy them. But at first provide the kid with simple toys, and then add more difficult, proceeding from his requirements and the opportunities.

   The baby likes to look at the bright objects suspended over his bed. After five - six months he likes to hold objects in hand, to rattle them, to chew them. Well plastic toys are suitable for such purposes (for example, the small rings strung on a big ring). Only you watch that it were qualitative toys from which paint does not descend.

   Between one and one and a half years the child excitedly thrusts one subject into another and pushes or drags it about the room. The wooden box on four wheels - a favourite toy of all children, but a cardboard box with a string is good too. At first children learn to push objects before themselves, and then already to pull along them. Kids with big hobby play with pans other house utensils, than with cubes or other toys. Many children love soft toys - dolls and animals, but some are indifferent to them.
Closer by two years it becomes more interesting to child to imitate adult and senior children. At first he imitates what is done by mother or the father, for example sweeps the floor, washes the dishes or has a shave. After two years his imagination becomes more creative. At this age children play with dolls and toy furniture, with trucks and especially willingly - with cubes. The cubes put one by one is a train, from them it is possible to put the house and even the car. And so indefinitely.
A set of cubes and blocks of all sizes and forms (designer) costs ten toys for the child of six - eight years.

   Give the chance to children to play in own way. Often, playing with children, adults involuntarily complicate a game, preventing those kids to go about the own business. For example, mother bought the daughter a doll with a set of clothes. The girl wants to put on at first a coat doll, and mother considers that all articles of clothing have to go one after another.

Or bought the little sick boy the book with pictures for coloring and colored pencils. It takes an orange pencil and just begins to drive them according to the page, he likes to paint orange the sky and a grass. It is difficult for parents to keep not to correct the child: "You draw incorrectly, I will show you as it is necessary".

   Or, for example, the father who in the childhood had no toy railroad buys it by New year for the three-year-old son. The father cannot wait to start the railroad. It carefully connects rails, and his little son a beret one of cars also stands him in the room corner. "Not so, - the father says, - it is necessary to put him on rails". The kid puts the car on rails and pushes; the car falls. "Not so, - the father exclaims, - it is necessary to start the motor, and then the train will go". But the child does not understand yet why cars move, to him not in power to get the railroad, he cannot even correctly put cars on rails.

   At this age children are not able to perceive the phenomena really. After the father, losing patience, explains to the son how to get the railroad, it has a strong hostility to brilliant metal cars. Besides, the kid is upset that he did not meet father's expectations. It departs from a toy, difficult for it, and begins to play with others, simpler, but giving it there are more pleasures.

   On this example I want to emphasize that you should not hurry the child. In due time it will correctly paint pictures, to dress dolls and with pleasure to play with the clockwork railroad. Adjusting the kid, you will force it to feel inconveniently that will do only harm.

   Game with you will give to the child pleasure if you play with it at one level. Let he will show you how to play; if the child asks for help, help it. If you bought a toy, too difficult for the kid, then or allow it to play with it as to it will like, or hide it until it does not grow up.

   Not to force, and to teach the child to be kind. When children of one and a half, two and two and a half years play together, they take away each other toys. The kid never leaves the property voluntarily or because he is a well-mannered child. He or seizes very much a toy and is capable even to beat the aggressor, or in confusion gives without fight. Similar pictures horrify mothers. But you should not worry.

   If your two-year-old child always takes away toys from others, it does not mean that he will grow up the tease. It is still too small to reckon with others. But if the kid always and all takes away, then it is better for it to play with children on is more senior which are already able to stand for the rights. If one child always concedes to another, it is better to divide them into some time. If your kid hurts another or if he has a furious look, pull him without any arguments and distract something its attention. You do not shame the child - he will decide that all betrayed it, and will become even more aggressive.

   If after three years the child is too aggressive if he did not learn to reckon with children with whom plays, so it is necessary to understand attentively his life in a family. Do not exclude the help of the children's psychiatrist, it can be very effective.

   If your two-year-old the baby does not wish to leave the property, it is quite normal for its age. Gradually he will become kinder when learns to love other people. If you force to give its invaluable carriage as soon as it is wished by other child, he will decide that the whole world, both children and adults, against it and wants to take away from it its treasures. It will only strengthen its proprietary feelings instead of reducing them.

   Approximately by three years the kid begins to derive pleasure from communication with other children. You can help it, having offered a game: "At first Alexander will carry a carriage, and Maria will go in it, and then Maria and Alexander will carry a carriage, and in it toys will sit". Then the child will share the toys with pleasure, apart from it an unpleasant duty.

   Practice of education of children of early age in collective shows that instilling of positive forms of communication between kids is successfully carried out also on the second year of life if systematically to accustom them to exchange toys and to share a tasty entertainment. When training in skills of good it is necessary to choose carefully a moment, using rather complacent mood of the child.
Avoid "the big victims" - do not suggest the child to leave a toy to which he is especially tied, or to give candy if she only and the kid seldom receives them.